The Evolution Of My Story
It's always been my goal to authentically share my story both in my scrapbooks and in this online space.
To me that means addressing the good, the bad, the beautiful, the successes, the challenges - the very real pieces of my life.
As many of you have noticed, and some have commented and emailed, Chris has been mostly absent for some time from the stories and photos. He has decided that he wants something different with his life and we are in the process of getting a divorce.
Chris continues to maintain an active role in the kid's lives.
There is nothing easy about this.
It's very hard and very stressful and very sad.
And yet, the story continues for all of us. For him and me. For the kids and me. For him and the kids. And there are many, many things I have to be thankful for in my life.
I've always maintained, and taught in my workshops, that not all stories need to be told.
But here, in this space, it's important to me that there's a general awareness of this change. This will allow me to more authentically share my story going forward.
A few months ago I asked for your prayers, your positive energy, your wishes of strength and peace, and your compassion. I'd humbly ask for your continued kindness as this specific chapter closes and new ones begin.
As you consider leaving a comment I would also humbly ask that you focus on something positive, compassionate and/or uplifting. Our heartfelt intent is to maintain a positive relationship as we move forward in our lives.
Wishing all of you, especially any of you who may be experiencing something similar within your own family, peace during the Christmas season.
You can do anything you set your heart to and that includes getting thru this. As a divorcee and mother of 2 wonderfully
adjusted girls you can make it work and kids adjust to the new routines better than you think. Stay friends with Chris it will
make things soooo much easier.
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You are an exceptional woman, an exceptional mother, and so very loved. I can't find words to say just how much it's affected me to see someone so committed to their craft, to practicing honesty and vulnerability and still maintaining strength and grace through it all. I wish you the very best, Ali, and as you craft your new normal, that you find unexpected joys and wonder. Blessings to you.
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Dear Ali,
My brother recently went through this when his (ex-)wife decided she wanted something different. Though it was an extremely painful process, even for people not directly involved, he and his ex-wife made a commitment to try to keep as positive a relationship as possible for the sake of their children. This is their first holiday season with the "new arrangement" (i.e. being officially divorced and having two different households) and it is tricky, but also admirable and touching to see how they are making it work.
My prayer for you is strength, courage, and grace upon grace as you and your beautiful children sort this all out.
Hugs,
Margaret McGarry
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I'm thinking of you and your family! I thought you might enjoy this quote which I found off a different blog awhile ago, it's one of my favorites.
"I don’t find it particularly interesting when people who are fearless go on to do great things; if you are truly fearless, any advice you could give would have no relevance in my life. People that have worries, and find ways to cope or work around them, are always the most inspiring. It is when you have jitters to overcome, and yet you still get up each and every day, trying to make your own and others’ lives better, that you become a role model."
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i'll keep you + yours in my thoughts, ali. sending love, strength and clear headedness as you start a new chapter.
we have a neighbor / family at our school where the parents are divorced, but have a good relationship. they come to pto meetings together. they go to events together. they are kind & comfortable with one another. i just wanted to share that because every time i see them i think it's fabulous they're able to maintain that, and i wish that for you and chris.
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Someone told me during a hard time that this experience is preparing you for what you are meant to do next. Somehow, the pain will transform and you're story will continue.
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Ali-
So deeply saddened for you & your family - sending prayers of comfort & strength to you as you go through this trying time in your life. You are such an inspiration to so many of us {hugs}
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Thinking of you, Ali. So, so sorry your family is going through this.
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Ali, just wishing for you to find your happiness.
Merry Christmas to you and your children.
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My prayers are with you, and especially Simon & Anna.
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Praying for you and your family during this difficult transition. I am always amazed at how generous you are in sharing your life with the world. Even though many of us have never met you in person, you are loved, and we wish the best for you.
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Much love to all 4 of you, Ali.
Carmen.
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Thinking of you and your kiddos during this hard time. Thanks for sharing with us--although we're virtual, you have a place in our hearts and I'm lifting all four of you up in prayer. Wishing you all the best to come.
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Hi Ali, I've been a fan of yours for a few years now....my family teases me about it. I just wanted to let you know, you are in my positive thoughts and prayers always. You are truly an amazing, wonderful,loving woman. I wish for your new year peace, happiness, and "love"....which btw is my word for 2012!
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Thank you for being so real, true and honest. May each day find you with more strenght as you walk into your new life. Having people behind you, family lifting you, and children to drive you it will get easier. God Bless you and your family Ali. Much love.
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My heart hurts for you right now but I am so glad that you have such loving and caring parents, family and friends that will help you through this trying time in your life. I'm also glad that Chris is still there for the kids. I'm sure that they will need some time to understand what is happening but your strength and love will help them find the answers they need. Best wishes Ali.
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Ali, I'm so very sorry to hear this news. My heart goes out to all of you. I was at a day spa for a rare treat last week and in the waiting area there was a bowl of affirmations on the table so I drew one. The little card said "Light" and I thought, "Oh, that's Ali's word" and on the back it reads "I have the strength and courage I need to deal with any situation." I have it sitting in front of me right now and if you would like it, I would be happy to pop it into the post for you. Sending you and your family much love.
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Ali-
As someone who has been there, I can assure you that you will come out the other side of this stronger and happier. The light is there, you just need to find peace in your soul so that you can see it. I admire the grace with which you have handled your situation and I hope that you and your children will be able to find joy in your holiday.
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Ali, you are a beautiful soul. You have been in my prayers since you first asked, and you'll remain there as you transition to your new reality. I'm so sorry that you and the kids are going through this. I'm confident that even though the road is bumpy, you'll find strength and authenticity to carry you through the difficult days ahead. Trust Your Journey, friend.
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Been keeping you all in my prayers Ali, you are strong and will carry one.
Wishing you all the peace of the season. (((HUGS)))
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ali...how my heart hurts for you and your family. i will be praying for you and thinking of you. i admire the grace and elegance with which you have treated this change. i pray that you and chris will continue to seek what's best for your family...and that you would know the Peace that passes all understanding today and throughout the coming days.
(The beginning of Isaiah 43 has always been a comfort to me during difficult and trying times in my life. I hope it will be the same to you.)
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You are one of the most amazing & wonderful woman & mothers I have every come across & know that I will be add you to my prayers for strength & comfort through the Holiday season.((HUGS))
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You're a strong woman Ali. I'm sure things will suck sometimes but you can and will make it through this. I'll be praying for your family this season.
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I'm really sorry that you are going through this. I hope that you find some relief through all the support that we, your readers, give you. You definitely did not have to share this, but being real is one of the things that I appreciate the most about you. I look up to your strength and character.
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You are an inspiration to us all. You are still a family, just different now. Good Luck and Happy Holidays.
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