And Then We Got Engaged

A week or so ago on Instagram I shared that Aaron had asked me to marry him while we were on vacation in Riviera Maya, Mexico. Today I want to share more about the story and our adventure. 

We planned this getaway last September after I had to miss going with Aaron to see Dave Matthews at the Gorge due to those blood clot issues (just finished up six months of medication for that). Many of you know that we are major Dave fans so when the event came through my email about Dave + Tim Reynolds putting on a three-night concert at a resort south of Cancun I knew we needed to make it happen. 

It ended up being one of the best trips of my life. 

Disconnect to connect.

We wanted to stay at the concert event property - we actually never left the whole time we were there which I personally loved - so we got a room at the Barcelo Grand Resort. We booked a room at the Barcelo Maya Beach (there are four or five properties all together that make up the Grand Resort) and our room ended up being literally less than two minutes from the concert venue.  

We would totally go back to this all-inclusive resort and are thinking about taking the kids back there after we make this official. 

We arrived on Monday night after dark and ate and then went for a walk around the property. As we were walking back towards our room we were caught in a downpour. We hustled over and crawled under a bridge over one of the pools - I led the way with that crazy idea - living the length and the width right there. Aaron later said he wished he'd had the ring on him at that moment. 

Amazingly enough, the sun was shining every day we were there except the last day when we left. It was awesome. 

Aaron took the vast majority of photos on this trip with his phone. I have to tell you that I loved having a break and just let him be in charge. I didn't even take my DSLR camera.

Navy pattern cover up is from Boden

I also didn't take my computer which meant I didn't do any work or even check emails. That might seem like a no-brainer for a vacation but I have had a hard time in the past pulling myself away - this time I made it happen and it was the best (got everything done I needed to before I left and just told Katie to be in charge). 

In the background of this photo you can see the stage set up that was located at the right end of the Barcelo property. 

The water was amazing and warm. 

We started our first full day by getting up early to catch the sunrise (we also knew we'd probably be staying up late on most of the other nights so this day made the most sense for getting up early). Living on the West Coast means we've seen our fair share of sunsets but sunrises are much more rare. It was so worth getting up early - especially as it ended up being the day he proposed. 

Aaron proposed when we were standing out in the water cooling off. He had gone back to the room right before and unknown to me had grabbed the ring. I had been telling him over and over throughout the morning how happy I was to be there with him in the sunshine. I was also telling him how much I loved him and how safe I feel with him. He is a solid, calm, good and kind man. As we stood out in the water he was standing behind me and hugging me and said "Will you marry me?" and I jokingly said, "Are you serious this time?" And he said I've been waiting for so long to do this and he got down on one knee in the water and asked me for real with the ring in his hand. And I said, "Of course I will marry you." And that was that. 

It was perfect. 

After proposing Aaron said, "wait until you hear about my other failures to launch." The best one was planned to happen the Monday before we left for Mexico. He had written out a bunch of words and phrases on notecards and had planned to come into the office (on a day Katie was here) and start placing them one at a time under the camera where I was filming a video for the March One Little Word® classroom. They said wonderfully funny, sweet and loving things (including one about how Katie has been there at so many of our most important moments - like the day we met at the movie theater). But his plan was foiled by a couple things including my kids being here that day (a last minute schedule change and then Simon was in the office working on an English paper for most of the day) and me finishing up my video recording much earlier than he anticipated. 

It all worked out. 

Late afternoon naps before the concert for the win. I think that was probably my face most of this trip. So happy. 

Last fall Aaron and I went to one of our favorite local shops - New Twist - to look for rings because we knew this was the direction we were likely heading. There were many, many discussions about all the factors over the last couple of years and the timing felt right. This one-of-a-kind design by Victoria Cunningham immediately caught my attention because I was looking for something different - something a little less traditional and something that would have a deeper meaning behind it and I just want one ring. 

One of the things I loved most about this one - which includes a slice of a diamond in the center - was that it has cracks inside the diamond slice. Those imperfections - so much like life itself and so much like our journeys to this stage - made this the perfect ring for me. 

Aaron wanted to have the chance to surprise me so I’ve been patiently (honestly) waiting until he found the right moment.

Dave and Tim were awesome. The venue was so cool and was part of the all-inclusive package so there was food and drinks available throughout the whole concert. Loved that part. 

It was definitely my first time to be able to stand in the ocean and listen to live music. 

I did a lot of this. 

Lots of fun conversations with other Dave fans over the course of the week. Lots of talk about how many shows everyone had been too - many people have been to so many all over the place. 

This was their "living postcard" set up. A few proposals happened in this spot over the three nights. 

Each concert day (there were three nights) included a live band playing around the pool.

We spent most of our time on chairs facing the beach rather than at the pool - hard not too when the ocean looks like this. 

I finished one of my books standing in the ocean. 

Really, it was the best. 

And man I love reading. 

So what's next? Most likely a small, private ceremony followed by a trip with all the kids to celebrate our family. 

Here are a few things I jotted down before leaving Mexico as well: 

  • I want to remember reading two and a half books and loving it. Finished up the forth a couple of days after we got home. I read Perfect Little WordWhat Alice Forgot, and The Twilight Wife.
  • I want to remember ignoring all the news.  
  • I want to remember the complete break from work and social media and I want to set more boundaries in my everyday life.  
  • I want to remember the shape of our days. Sleep till 9. Get beach chairs. Breakfast and then read the day away. Concerts at night.  
  • I want to remember meeting Andrea and then Jill at the last night of the concerts.  
  • I want to remember the color and feel of the water and the sun on my face and the instant friends connected by Dave Matthews.  
  • I want to remember the calmness and ease of our days.  
  • I want to remember getting proposed to in the Caribbean Sea and saying yes, of course, and then Dave having a sound check and playing parts of So Damn Lucky.  
  • I want to remember standing in front of Aaron with his arms wrapped around me while we listened to Dave & Tim.

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  1. cryslee444 says…
    03/13/2017

    I am not a crier but this had me in happy tears for you! Congratulations Ali and Aaron!

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  2. wendywhitten says…
    03/13/2017

    CONGRATULATIONS to you both and your family. We've all been "patiently" waiting and so very excited for this next chapter. Joy, joy, JOY & HAPPY CHEERS!! ❤?

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  3. larsar09_gmail_com says…
    03/13/2017

    Oh Ali, congratulations! so happy for you all. I was so excited when you said you were going to the Barcelo. We head there at the end of the month. Our kids chose to go back there for spring break. They just love it. When there isn't a Dave Matthews concert going on, there are crazy games like water polo and relays, yoga on the beach, dance lessons, water aerobics and all kinds of fun during the day around the pools. We have also been to the Barcelo in the Dominican. Just as beautiful there too. When we walk in, it feels like home, we are familiar with the property and so comfortable there. Funny how I can recognize the areas in your photos. We highly recommend their properties. Again, so happy for you! Breathe it all in and live in all the moments.

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  4. Lqmurphy says…
    03/13/2017

    What a beautiful story! Thank you for sharing with us. I am so happy for you and you totally deserve this happiness!

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  5. larkindesign says…
    03/13/2017

    Many many congratulations to you both! So happy for you all!

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  6. jennlmcclure says…
    03/13/2017

    This is so awesome!!! So stoked for you and your family!

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  7. jenjohnson2 says…
    03/13/2017

    What an awesome story. Thanks for sharing this, and so many other pieces of your life with us. Congratulations to you all! <3

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  8. simplyautumn says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations, Ali! Love your story.

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  9. Dcorder says…
    03/13/2017

    Thank you for sharing your story with us. I think we've all been waiting for this day too. Best wishes to the entire blended family!

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  10. nerdgrl says…
    03/13/2017

    CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

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  11. KarineC says…
    03/13/2017

    How wonderful! I'm so happy for you and Aaron!! Congratulations!!!

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  12. dgatmon says…
    03/13/2017

    So happy for you and Aaron! Loved reading this story. Congratulations!

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  13. pmmessner says…
    03/13/2017

    feeling like a part of your story for years & years & years... i am beyond truly happy for you ali. you are grace, love & especially HOPE. CONGRATULATIONS on this next chapter of your life story... & thank you for sharing it with "US". xoxo...

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  14. younggirl says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations, Ali!!! So so happy for you and Aaron. As someone who's followed your blog for 10 years now, it's exciting to hear about this next step in your journey. :)

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  15. lrents says…
    03/13/2017

    I'm really glad he didn't drop that ring. That part of the story completely stressed me out! - your friend from Bali

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    1. AliEdwards says…
      03/13/2017

      Me too! Ha!

  16. diana22 says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations to you Ali and Aaron. I am so happy for you both!

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  17. marysara says…
    03/13/2017

    You look so happy and relaxed. Thanks for sharing your story and it sounds like it was just perfect. I'm really happy for you that you have found happiness again and that you and Aaron found and have each other. Congratulations and here's to the next chapter and stories to come.

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  18. Ratthouse says…
    03/13/2017

    This was just beautiful. Thanks for sharing and inspiring. And again, congratulations to all of you.

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  19. hiltonp says…
    03/13/2017

    Magical story - told by my favorite storyteller! I have learned so much about the importance of telling my own story through reading your stories. This one is especially beautiful. Congratulations to you and to Aaron and to your precious family!

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  20. jchurch2 says…
    03/13/2017

    This make me so, so happy. It is a fairy tale which you can relive for the rest of time. Thank you for sharing this memory with us. So many of us feel very connected with you and are celebrating and feeling like we were there with you. Best wishes and congratulations on starting this new chapter of your life. ?❤️

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  21. lauracwonsik says…
    03/13/2017

    This is beautiful and wonderful and happy. Also, really love seeing the photos from his perspective of you. It's the best to see yourself through the eyes of someone who loves you.

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  22. Inkfanatic says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations!! What a beautiful story! Soooooo glad for you that you were able to disconnect from all the distractions and just be present & enjoy your time there! Literally you are such a huge inspiration to so many people, in life, not just memory keeping?. We keep talking of disconnecting as well, though on a grander scale...have to say, I'm on board, but it's hard to do. Making the choice to be present though, is going to win every time isn't it? Thank You for sharing your beautiful story!! So very happy for you all!!

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  23. sneakerwaves says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations Ali and Aaron! So extremely happy for you and your combined families. I've been following your inspiration for storytelling since Simon was born. Loved, loved the photos of your vacation and proposal venue. You both look so relaxed and happy. Come visit us at Salishan for golf and wine! And bring that sunshine with you....the sunshine in your smiles and that orb in the sky. It is still up there in the sky, right?

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  24. amiep says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations to a very deserving couple. All the best to both of you and the children too.

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  25. melry296 says…
    03/13/2017

    Congratulations to you both. What a great trip!!! ?

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