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July 25, 2010

Those Things Left Undone

When I wake up on Monday morning I'll walk into a kitchen with a counter and sink full of dishes. In my office I'll find a partially completed layout I'd planned to finish and post. On my computer l'll find emails I've not yet answered. In my closet and laundry room I'll find hampers filled with clothes to be washed.

When I wake up on Monday morning, instead of finding a clean house and an organized work space, I'll find a heart full of great memories from this past weekend.  

As I begin that process of cleaning up the kitchen and getting the laundry going I'll be thankful that Chris and I got to spend a full weekend just with Simon while Anna had her first weekend at Grandma & Grandpa Camp (what we call going to the beach with my parents). We let him choose his own adventures with our full attention: swimming on both Saturday & Sunday, Toy Story 3, the park, chocolate ice cream, dinners of his favorite foods, cuddling with me on the couch.

When I wake up on Monday morning I'll hear Simon's words in my ear from Saturday night, "thank you for spending the day with me."

When I wake up on Monday morning I'll begin my day with a very thankful heart.

Comments

  • 51.
    Cathy Weber said…

    As I read your post, I cried. I remember the time my daughter was so happy I worked on a puzzle with her. Not going to Disneyland, the movies, buying her stuff at the mall. A puzzle.

  • 52.
    Vicky said…

    Ali, this post is one of the main reasons I love you and your blog so much. You always remind us of what’s important. Thanks for sharing and for making my heart sing on a monday morning.

  • 53.
    Olessia said…

    OMG,Ali, I can TOTALLY relate to your beautiful story…
    I wake up in the Monday morning and fine sink full with dishes from last night Nikita’s 6 birthday party,in the living room lots of wrapping paper from her gifts,from 18 friend she had over yesterday and about 20 family and friend,sharing FATALISTIC day with her.And when I was sitting on my coach,having my morning coffee, I can hear her voice telling me and my husband:”Thank you mom and dad for such a fun party,thanks for inviting a Barbie Ballerina for my party !”
    LOVE memories
    Thank you for shearing your life story’s,Ali.

  • 54.
    amykiane said…

    What a wonderful perspective to have. Your post inspired my own post for today. I have left many things undone this summer, but I’m not regretting any of it. http://www.ordinarilyextraordinary.com/2010/07/things-left-undone.html

  • 55.
    Anne said…

    Oh Amy, I can relate to your thankful heart. I spent the day out in the garden with my 10 year old niece. She is at that age where she is interested in everything that grows, and wants to be a part of the planting and harvesting of the garden. She has been asking me all summer to help me- and just yesterday we were able to make it work. I totally cherished that time with her. This morning, running out of the house for work, I passed dirty laundry, a stack of mail on the counter, a garbage can over flowing, and a dishwasher that needed to be unloaded. It will all get done eventually, right? Thank you for your post today!

  • 56.
    Nicky from Canada said…

    Life is good!!

  • 57.
    Anne said…

    I meant Ali! really, I did! I meant, “Oh, Ali!” It’s Monday! :)

  • 58.
    Paige said…

    As a mom of a five month old second child, I am trying so hard to find private time with my older one. He got all of our attention for close tofive years before his brother arrived. This is a good reminder!

  • 59.
    Michelle said…

    As I was reading your post, I was so feeling your “pain,” until I read you had a heartful of memories and read on…it changed my perspective on what needs to get done around my house…
    Thank you Simon for helping me see things in a different life as I think back over the past weekend and had a blast with my family!

  • 60.
    Deb J said…

    I know it can’t be done every day but I’m so glad that you know that it can be done occasionally and what a difference it makes. I wish I could get my mom to realize that. She’s worse about it at 82 than she was when I was younger.

  • 61.
    cher said…

    Iknow…I remember these moments too…so sweet! luv that kid!

  • 62.
    goshery said…

    Ali, stop making me cry at work!!! What a wonderful post – and what a wonderful family.

  • 63.
    Shauna Miller said…

    Love it! Thank you for reminding me that as I am cleaning up from the weekend every monday to not look at all I have to do and clean but to reflect back on all that we did as a family the past weekend!! This exactly what I needed this monday afternoon as I still clean up from the weekend :)

  • 64.
    Wendy High said…

    So totally awesome Ali! What a great weekend with your little guy!

  • 65.
    Debbie - NZ said…

    Awwww Ali that is just awesome and gorgious! Sounds like an awesome weekend!

  • 66.
    TracieClaiborne said…

    Lovely and thoughtful post. I always wake up to a mess on Monday mornings but I’ve never been thoughtful enough to realize it’s because I enjoyed the weekend!

  • 67.
    Teresa said…

    I’ve tried to spend more time with my daughter this summer. I work 2 jobs and the parttime one I usually work on my days off from the fulltime one. For the summer I’ve waited until my husband gets home those 2 afternoons and then go to my other job(it’s very flexible). We have spent a lot of time together this summer. She turned 8 in June and I realize it won’t be long she’ll be too old to hang out with mom.

  • 68.
    Gina said…

    oh Ali, that is so sweet and so true! i am so glad that you had a very nice weekend with Simon and that he realized how special it was. it is hard when you have more than one child to completely focus on just one! but so important! I hope you are having a great Monday!

  • 69.
    Wendy Orme said…

    What a great mom you are!

  • 70.
    Sherry Coleman said…

    Awesome.

  • 71.
    Angie said…

    Beautiful words….hits home on most Monday mornings…
    I have a MIL who when my kids were little always told me…clean your house….never go to bed with dishes in the sink……I am so very glad I did not listen to her……my kids never once said to me….Mom do those dishes…..run that vacume……but they did tell me in the hugs and kisses how much they loved spending time with us….the dishes will be there and the dog hair will still be on the rug…..buth kids grow up way too fast….
    thank you Ali for this trip down memory lane about my kids when they were little…
    angie

  • 72.
    Melanie L. said…

    What a sweet boy you have there! You’ve got to enjoy them when they’re young. :)

  • 73.
    Ruth Allmart said…

    Now that is so cool! What a great idea :)

  • 74.
    Karen W said…

    What a nice way to start the week, for you, for all of us….

  • 75.
    Tracy said…

    What a testimony to how beautifully you are raising your children! To hear Simon speak with such a grateful heart just for the simple act of you focusing all of your attention on him probably brings you so much joy! Embrace these precious moments Ali. I’ve learned a thing or two about how I want my children to be raised just from reading this post. Thank you!

  • 76.
    Theresa said…

    Grandma & Grandpa Camp is loved by all here – we call ours by the place they go – e.g. they go to “Camp Sunrise” when visiting my parents in Sunrise, FL! It makes a special way for them to refer to their time and location.

  • 77.
    Jamie V said…

    What a lovely little post… :)

  • 78.
    Dori said…

    Thank you for the beautiful post, Ali. I love it!

  • 79.
    Suzanne said…

    what a beautiful post, ali! time spent with those who grow up too fast is priceless!

  • 80.
    Nell said…

    So true! When I had my first child my friend gave me a magnet that said “Good mothers have filthy ovens, sticky floors and happy kids” Some days (usually when the crumbs, and dishes and washing overwhelm me) it is my mantra!
    Simon will remember those memories for years to come.

  • 81.
    Sonya said…

    How DO you do it? Once again, you’ve shown your ability to enjoy and reflect on the truly important! I think I want to be you when I grow up! :)

  • 82.
    Roberta said…

    Washing and cleaning will wait till tomorrow,
    Children won’t we’ve learned to our sorrow.
    little quote i found years ago
    it’s more important to make those memories than having a spotless house
    my idea of cleaning is to sweep the room with a glance
    another little quote
    Blessings

  • 83.
    sue said…

    Time with your children is much more important than laundry and dishes! My children are grown and gone and I am very thankful that I took time to ‘play and read and go places with them’ instead of focusing on household chores all the time. We did share chores among the family but the focus was on them while growing up and I’m glad i did it.

  • 84.
    Laurie J.M. said…

    What a beautiful post. What a beautiful heart you have.

  • 85.

    Thank you for this reminder. I often wake up on Monday feeling aggravated at the messes that were made over the weekend that I have to clean up now. I look forward to remembering the fun weekend we had instead of the mess I am cleaning up.

  • 86.
    Jamie Pate said…

    sweetness.

  • 87.
    Jamie Pate said…

    sweetness.

  • 88.
    Jamie Pate said…

    sweetness.

  • 89.
    Jamie Pate said…

    sweetness.

  • 90.
    Cindy C. said…

    Your post is so inspiring to me.
    You remind me to enjoy my time with the family, and not to concetrate on gettng things done.

  • 91.
    Mariana Correia said…

    The more I read you, the more I like you!!! It’s good to see that everybody (at least every mother) has the same issues, even if we live in different countries! You are quite an inspiration! Congratulations on your jobs (as a blogger, a mom, a scrapper, a designer, a wife, etc)!!!

  • 92.
    Jakki said…

    THIS is so important for them…even though my kids are 14 and 17 I STILL try and have alone time with each one of them and even at their ages, they love it…

  • 93.
    Kristal Jones said…

    I heart this post. Being present for our children is all they really want. :)

  • 94.
    Donna Tullis said…

    very sweet words whispered straight into your heart…priceless and very precious.

  • 95.
    Karen said…

    Brought tears to my eyes. So sweet :)

  • 96.
    Robyn Meierotto said…

    love.love.love. spending individual time is oh so important! glad you had such a great weekend :)

  • 97.
    Cherie said…

    Thank you for this reminder. Very well written.

  • 98.
    Sue from Oregon said…

    what a heartwarming post. I am going to forward to my daughter. Sometimes it is so easy to forget…

  • 99.
    AForestFrolic said…

    That is super sweet…what a fun way to spend time…letting him pick the weekend activities! *Smile*
    Jamie :)

  • 100.
    Erika Melnychuk said…

    Thank you for sharing the reality that your life isn’t “perfect” – that there are dirty dishes and messes and unfinished projects. Sometimes, it’s easy to only project to the public the completed finished products, so it’s nice to hear about those things that are so REAL in your life. And, beautiful that instead of fretting about that and making in an overwhelming, negative thing in your life, you’re able to really see the positive in it! Thanks for all the inspiration!

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