Ali Edwards Capture life. Create art.

July 10, 2014

A Story About Two People

AE_Aaron-copy

AE_Ali

I want to tell you a story about two people.

Two people who fit together, as he says, like a jigsaw puzzle.

I tell him I like him more and more everyday.

There are moments we cling to each other, moments we push away, moments we fall back and moments we fall forward – both alone and together.

We are a complicated pair. In our own heads often. Intense. Independent. Damaged (and I mean that in the best possible way). Passionate. We are so very different and so very much the same.

We have tangled schedules. We tip toe. We ask forgiveness. I soften as I remember these are new pathways and I can choose something different this time.

We inhabit a new territory. Our families broke open. We know that sadness. We know the questions and the fear and the desire to create and build and protect. We know what it’s like to know someone forever and ever and then have that person disappear (even though both are still integral pieces of our lives). We know the reality of stories that have an ending.

We also know new joy and we’ve felt that rush of a beginning.

We are learning as we grow. Alone and together about who we are as individuals and who we are together and what it means to have our families expand.

I don’t know how this story will end. It’s happening right now and we’re living it. Sometimes these sorts of stories are really hard to tell because you’re living in the middle of it.

If we always waited for the end to tell a story we’d miss so much.

When I feel most afraid I remind myself that there are things to say, and things to celebrate, and pieces to document without fear of how the story will end. Do stories ever really end? Or do they just change and curve and zig zag and evolve into the next one?

Our family stories are different now, but they are still our families.

What I know is this, he has a huge giant heart of gold even when he tries to hide it with jokes and sarcasm. And the cure for everything just might be pie. Pumpkin for him, fruit for me.

We are in it people. One day at a time.

To be continued.


After receiving multiple requests recently I’ve put my popular self-paced Scrapbook On The Road workshop up for sale again for a limited time. This is a well-liked workshop that includes how-to videos, full-color PDF handout, etc. Full details and registration information here.

Comments

  • 1.
    erin said…

    beautiful, ali!

  • 2.
    Jamie said…

    LOVE this story!!!! (How right you are to point out that it’s scary to tell our story without knowing the end. So good for me to know & remember.)

  • 3.
    alecia said…

    Love this! LOVE YOU! Hope to meet him someday. . .

  • 4.
    Kathy said…

    I love this quote – “Do stories ever really end? Or do they just change and curve and zig zag and evolve into the next one”, I can see a great lay out based on it, or as a title page for a scrapbook. Thank you. kathy

  • 5.
    KellyO said…

    Beautiful Ali. You’ve completely summed up divorce and the bravery it takes to move forward. The growth and the new choices as you do. And the joy. The joy that you can find again.

  • 6.
    Maria Elena said…

    I love your post!

  • 7.
    Bambou Orchidee said…

    This is so beautifully written !!! Love it ! And thank you for sharing these so personal thoughts.

  • 8.
    Michelle t. said…

    This brought me strong feelings. The story I am living that hasn’t ended is different, but your words apply, do they ever. (When you said “in the best possible way” among other phrases). Thank you for sharing this. We all are going through this life, with our stories, and every single one, meaningful, heart wrenching, beautiful. Michelle t

  • 9.
    RitaQ said…

    Powerfully written & so poignant.

  • 10.
    Barb said…

    Very cool story Ali! Happy you are living it and not just waiting to figure it out.

  • 11.
    Christen said…

    So nice…

  • 12.
    J3SS1C4 said…

    This is the sweetest! I’m glad you have someone who gives you an exciting beginning yet again. You deserve all the happiness it brings :)

  • 13.
    juliane said…

    Wow just wow!

    Juliane

  • 14.
    kelsey said…

    Amazingly written. Relationships are hard to begin with,let alone what the two of you have gone through.It can’t be easy to navigate all these relationships (his ex, your ex, his kids) but I’m sure in the end it will all be worth it.

    Go, Ali, Go!

  • 15.
    April said…

    Love, love, love this.

  • 16.
    Robin Gibson said…

    Ditto, to RitaQ!

  • 17.
    Terri said…

    Your raw honesty (his, too) teaches all of us. This might be my favorite post of all from you, Ali. I am 62 years old and you even speak to me.

    So grateful for you. I am off to make a blueberry pie.

  • 18.
    Erica Thomas said…

    Very insightful post. I’ve wondered if you’d write about aaron and your relationship. Of anything you could write, I think this sums it up best. Thank you for sharing.

  • 19.
    Jenell said…

    I love this entire post, but especially love this: “Do stories ever really end? Or do they just change and curve and zig zag and evolve into the next one”. Don’t fight this story, Ali. The story is happening and curving and zig-zagging along, but you and Aaron are in the Story. Let it play out – capture it – enjoy it! Thanks for sharing this. This was beautifully written!

  • 20.
    Pink Ronnie said…

    Thank you, Ali…
    Ronnie xo

  • 21.
    laura g. said…

    it’s probably very hard to trust someone new in your life after someone has broken your heart and turned your life upside down…but to not let someone new into your life is cheating yourself from really living and moving forward…scarey territory…but you have navigated it with grace and dignity…thinking of your children’s welfare first…you are a class act and very admired…Go, Ali, Go!!

  • 22.
    Elizabeth S. said…

    I love this post. Thanks for sharing your heart.

  • 23.
    Kristie said…

    I think this is one of my favorite posts EVER from you, Thank you for continuing to share your story with us.

  • 24.
    Janet Wight said…

    Wow, you really said your truth, Ali. Your openness and vulnerability touched me.

  • 25.
    Leah Burgett said…

    Beautifully written!! Love it!

  • 26.
    Janet said…

    T.S.Eliot said “What we call the beginning is often the end. And to make an end is to make a beginning. The end is where we start from.”
    I used this quote in my One Little Word page for July and seems fitting for this beautiful blog post.

  • 27.
    Mary Sara P. said…

    This is so awesome Ali. Love it. xo

  • 28.
    Karen C said…

    Beautifully said.

  • 29.
    Mary Sara P. said…

    ps – I’m so happy for you!

  • 30.
    Bonnie Lamothe said…

    amazing, luminous with honesty and raw emotion and … forward movement, the joy of being brave. definitely one of your best posts. you are so real ali, so honest, so open, I think you are amazing and so very inspirational!

  • 31.
    Hailey Mann said…

    wonderful!

  • 32.
    Kris Beauregard said…

    You are an amazing writer.

  • 33.
    Debbie said…

    Beautiful. Love your ability to tell this story! I wish you both the best!!

  • 34.
    Kathy C. said…

    Makes my heart smile for you both!!! :)

  • 35.
    Desiree Leiva said…

    “Our families broke open. We know that sadness… We know what it’s like to know someone forever and ever and then have that person disappear… We know the reality of stories that have an ending.” This resonated with me so much, Ali. Except for me this is still “I” and not “We.” I’m still at the beginning of my journey. Thank you for being an absolute inspiration on how to be in the face and aftermath of divorce. Thank you.

  • 36.
    Carolyn HP said…

    Wow Ali, reading this made me so happy for you!

    Love the way you write and that you are sharing such a tender relationship with your audience, friends, blog readers near and far :)

    Also happy to hear you are embracing this new beginning – what a beautiful story and perspective!

    I’ve now been with my husband 11 years, and 2 years married in August and I am so happy.

    Although before we were married, I was sometimes sad that it took me so long to find my soul mate and that I didn’t have children for a few reasons. These days, I’m just thankful to have the love of this good man and to know that we go through life together and that is our story :)

    Every story is so different but still love grows and brings us together.

    Definitely going to pick up Scrapbook on the Road! Thanks Ali!

  • 37.
    Yolanda said…

    Oh man, the sentence, “Our families broke open.” Hit me so hard. It’s the word “open” at the end, and everything that it conveys. The raw gook on the inside. The possibilities that come when something that appeared whole is actually holding a lot more inside. It’s an amazing word choice. So different from saying “broken” or “fell apart” (the phrases we often hear). And it’s so much more truth. I can’t wait to see this in a layout.

  • 38.
    Lauren Lebovitz said…

    That was beautiful, raw and vulnerable. Thank you for sharing.

  • 39.
    France said…

    I felt this post so much. I too have lived through the endings and found a new beginning. You have captured it beautifully and honestly.

  • 40.
    R said…

    These words touched me – right in the heart.

  • 41.
    April W said…

    I just adore this…

  • 42.
    Cristina said…

    So honest and beautiful. I love how open you are Ali…such a gift to all those who read your words.
    Wishing you all the best on your journey.
    xoxo

  • 43.
    Nikki said…

    The “present” is such an often-times rejected gift. I applaud your effort to embrace the stories as they come. I am striving to live more in the moment, to appreciate the here and now, because that’s all we have. We don’t know when that will change, and even in the messy, scary, sad, angry moments, there are lessons to be learned, beauty to be seen, confidence to be earned and an overcomer’s spirit to embrace. Documenting the ups and downs opens a gateway for poignant reflection and a kick ass memoir one day! ;)

  • 44.
    Kelly Fergie said…

    Everything about this is beautiful. Heartache is something we all go through you are both so lucky to have someone to mend with.

  • 45.
    Kamie said…

    So very happy for you both! What an uplifting post!

  • 46.
    Alida said…

    Beautifully written, Ali. Reminds me of what Ann Voskamp wrote in 1000 Gifts: Only God knows how the story ends.

  • 47.
    sherri said…

    so lovely. sending you both love.

  • 48.
    Lisa A. A. said…

    Thanks for sharing. Know that so many people are happy & rooting for both of you!

  • 49.
    Denise said…

    Ali…you are such a beautiful storyteller. It all comes from deep within your soul. Love.

  • 50.
    Carrie said…

    So beautifully written!!!! Thank you for sharing your beautiful continuing story with us! You are such an inspiration in more ways then you know!!!!!

Post a comment