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Daily Work-At-Home Rhythms & Things I Have Learned

I’ve received a few requests recently for a post about my work-at-home schedule or more specifically, “what does your day look like?” and “how do you fit it all in?

My work at home journey started about six or seven years ago and it’s been continually evolving and changing over time. These changes reflect the passage of time, my workload, the change of seasons (literally and more figuratively), the addition of family members, Chris’ work, inspiration, travel, and on and on.

We struggle with the same issues many families face, and some that are more unique to our own personal situation. Some days things completely fall apart and other days everything hums right along. My hope is that through sharing these details of our lives you might find one little thing that will make a positive impact for you and your family. If find it’s often simply one little thing that acts a springboard for making life-affirming adjustments.

To begin I want to share two lines from Mary Oliver’s poem The Summer Day that I keep top of mind and close to my heart as I approach and schedule my days:

For me that thought, those specific words, are a marker, a springboard, and a measuring stick.

When I need to re-evaluate anything, Mary’s words come to mind…”one wild and precious life.” They lead me back to my core beliefs and help me make decisions that mesh with those things that are most precious to me.

This is our life. Real, basic, wonderfully imperfect everyday life.

THE RHYTHM OF MY DAY

MORNING | Chris and I are up early, usually 6am. Simon’s alarm goes off at 6:15am. Anna yells “Mama” sometime around 6:30am.

The day starts with a simple breakfast (toast, bagel with cream cheese, or bowl of cereal) for Chris and the kids and something hot to drink for the adults. I usually have a bowl of oatmeal after everyone else has started their day.

Simon gets up early enough that he doesn’t have to rush. He takes his time while eating breakfast (there are lots of reminders from us that usually sound like “Keep eating Simon.”) I’m not a fan of rushing and would much rather get up a bit earlier to give us all a little more time to adjust to the start of a new day. After breakfast he gets himself dressed, brushes his teeth, we brush his hair, and then we wait together for the bus.

The bus comes for Simon at 7:10.

Most days I don’t take a shower until later in the day after I’ve exercised (more on that below).

I also often throw in a load of laundry first thing. I’m a fan of hearing those machines humming along.

CHILDCARE | We have two babysitters that share childcare responsibilities – both are an integral part of the way we function during the week. One is a long-time friend and the other we found through Care.com. Both are loved as a member of our family. Two days a week Anna is cared for outside our house and the other three days she and the babysitter are here. Childcare began for Anna when she was about 6 months old.

On two days of the week Anna goes to one of their houses for childcare – she gets picked up around 7am. On the opposite days of the week our other babysitter comes here and watches Anna at our house. She arrives at 8am.

WORK | After the kids are on their way or settled in, I go upstairs to work.

In our home we have a bonus room that is used as my office. I like that it’s away from the regular traffic within the house. I like that I “go to” work in a specific place. I also like that it has a door that can be closed at the end of my work day. I feel this set up has helped me be more present in both my work hours and my family hours.

My daily work schedule is flexible. It’s a mix of email, writing, creating stuff with my hands, designing products, photographing, linking, uploading, creating content, dreaming up ideas, telling stories, monitoring classrooms & message boards, answering questions, and more writing. There’s also billing and planning and occasional phone calls.

I don’t have a set schedule I follow during my work hours but I do tend to have an agenda each day. I have an ongoing project/task list and a calendar – both keep me in tune with project deadlines. There are many ways I could be more efficient – efficient is a word that comes to me often during the day.

I use a program called Things for keeping track of projects. My sister just introduced me to TeuxDeux (an online to-do list) that I might test out. It’s even simpler than Things. Right now I’m just trying to see if it would actually be helpful for me or just add another level of list-making.

I’m working on not adding other layers of lists/stuff/places to visit – too many makes me less efficient. Sometimes it’s easy to spend way too much time searching for “just the right thing” when in reality whatever I was using was just fine.

I’m thankful everyday for my flexible schedule.

EXERCISE | Over the last year making exercise happen during the day has become very important to me. I now see it simply as a part of my day.

I run from home. I bike from home. I run and swim at the gym.

Some days I exercise before I start working. Other days I wait until later, depending on what’s on my work agenda, when I worked-out the day before, and what activity I wan to do that day. I used to feel like I needed to have a fixed schedule for this – now my one and only goal is to exercise once a day. I find myself exercising more consistently since I’ve given myself more flexibility.

As I’ve been running more I find it really hard to sit at my desk for long periods of time like I used to and this is awesome since I’ve been working on not being married to my computer. Often I’ll just get up and run outside when I get to the point that I just can’t take sitting at my computer for another minute (or when I find myself mindlessly surfing or being hopelessly inefficient). Getting out and getting it done has definitely helped me be more focused when I return to my computer.

People often say that running clears their head and heart. I have found that to be absolutely true.

AFTERNOON | Simon returns home from school around 2:45pm. He usually plays legos or video games for a bit and has a snack before he tackles the homework. We’re working on incorporating daily reading time for him as well – having him have an interest in The Diary of a Wimpy Kid is totally helping (he’s also starting to enjoy reading before bed). After his homework is done it’s usually more legos or a video or playing outside when it’s warmer or chasing Anna around inside when it’s raining.

Right now he’s not in swimming lessons but I’d like to get him back into those as well.

While Simon is doing homework Anna is usually hanging out in the kitchen/dining room area playing or coloring or painting. Our babysitter facilitates this afternoon routine on the days she is here.

On the days she’s not here I meet Simon when he gets off the bus (it comes to our house) and hang out with him while he transitions to being at home. Depending on what I’m working on I try to have something I can do on my laptop so I can hangout with him in the kitchen/dining room area or I do things like move the laundry around, fold clothes, pick up toys, empty the dishwasher, take out the garbage, etc.

DINNER | Dinner gets underway around 5:30pm. The kids are hungry at that time and I like to eat early and I enjoy how the day flows into night with dinner as the transition point. Depending on Chris’ schedule he’s able to make it or not (different times of the year are different for him). I do a general meal plan (sometimes written out and sometimes often just in my head) for the week that usually includes three main cooking nights with a specific recipe while other nights are leftovers or weekly favorites like tostadas or baked potatoes. On the days that I’m here with Simon in the afternoon I’ll often spend some of that time prepping dinner.

I like to cook. I especially like to cook with a plan in place and the correct ingredients on hand. Grocery shopping happens once a week with maybe one additional stop for more OJ or milk.

We’ve been making progress with Simon and his eating habits and that’s been really, really nice. It’s still drama-filled at times, but it’s so much better than it used to be. At least now we can usually get him to eat what’s on his plate – or at least try it. The best thing is that I’m not cooking more than one meal anymore. Whatever I make is what we’re having and we have a balance of things each week that he can rely on and likes combined with the new foods (like we always have tostadas – his favorite – once a week). He seems more open to the new foods when we can say “last night we had tostadas, tonight we’re having spaghetti” (a non-preferred food).

Eating together, all four of us at the table, is really one of my favorite things. Even when it’s challenging with Simon, even when we end up sitting there for almost an hour as he takes one tiny bite at a time, even when Anna’s ready to get down from her booster chair after one bite, even then it’s still something I treasure. It’s often the only time of the day when we are all together in one room at the same time.

I’m hoping to get a new table to eat out in our backyard this summer.

 

EVENING | After the dinner dishes are done we hang out – playing hide & go seek is the recent favorite – before the bedtime routines begin. Bedtime for Anna is between 7 and 7:30pm with a bath before. Simon’s been staying up until 8 or 8:30pm.

Sometimes the dishes stay in the sink until the next morning. My preference is to get them done after dinner, but I go with the flow and the mood and the opportunity.

Once the kids are in bed it’s time to do more work or hang out on the couch with Chris. We watch DVR’d Jon Stewart, Modern Family, 60 Minutes, Glee, or American Idol, or a Netflix movie we might have on hand. Sometimes we both have our computers on our laps and other times we’re just hanging out.

I like to be in bed by 10pm or earlier. Most nights I read in bed – no computer or TV in our bedroom.

And then we do it all again.

THINGS I HAVE LEARNED (AND AM STILL LEARNING)

TRIAL + ERROR = EVOLUTION | There’s no magic formula. There’s no prescription, no set things to do or a specific set of things to follow. It’s simply trial and error and evolution. When our schedule/set-up starts not working, I change things up. This time next year it’s likely that things will have changed again.

I think one of the most important things in setting up your day is to be fully aware of your core values. If you don’t know what you value most it’s pretty difficult to keep that focus first and foremost in your heart and mind. What do you want your life to be about? How do you want to spend your time? What’s most important to you? If those things aren’t being nurtured it’s likely time to make some changes.

ESTABLISH A FLOWING ROUTINE | Over the years our daily routines have come and gone. Being open to going with the flow and adapting to the established routines with as little upset as possible is a part of our daily life. There have been times when we stick really close to certain routines (especially when Simon was younger) and other times when it’s been easier to be flexible.

For me, knowing the flow of activities throughout the day works better than having set times. Waking up flows into breakfast flows into getting dressed flows into brushing teeth, etc.

WEEKENDS = FAMILY | I work hard to keep most of my work within the confines of Monday through Friday. The weekends are family-time, relaxation, adventure or just doing nothing. I work ahead during the week so I’m not stressing on Sunday night that I don’t have something lined up for Monday morning.

SAY NO | I say “no” a lot. I still say “yes” quite a bit, but saying no has gotten easier and it gives me more freedom to focus on what I care about most (both in work and family life).

SYSTEMS | I like things to be organized and have a natural tendency towards order. I like the things we own to have a home -  a specific place to be put away. We each have a shoe basket in our entry. We each have a dirty clothes basket in our bedroom closets. I’m keenly aware of how I feel when certain systems aren’t working as I’d like and I change them up to see if something new will work better.

I find it’s easier to keep our stuff picked up when there’s a very specific place to put that stuff away. I’m one of those people that functions better in general when things are in their right place. I work with the kids to keep things picked up but I don’t stress about it and I’m not fanatical – I just take care of it.

CHOICES | I’m not a do-it-all person. I’m more of a do-less person. Actually, there are lots of things I like to do, many of which include just hanging out with my family without being distracted by a myriad of other obligations. I take very seriously the choices I make in how I spend my time. I have no desire to be super-busy. When I’m super busy I find myself complaining way too much (all complaints about being busy) when I should be enjoying whatever it is that’s happening around me.

I want to live a full life. Busy does not equal full.

Last Thursday night I read this post from Tara Whitney which included this statement: “Being busy does not bring meaning to my life.” This is one of those things I believe wholeheartedly. I make time for what I love. The pace of our days is important to me.

Leo from Zen Habits also has a post on this that's inspiring: The End Of Busy. Also check out How To Live In The Land Of Enough: Time from Be More With Less.

PERSPECTIVE & ATTITUDE | Since starting my work at home journey, along with all my other work and life adventures over the last six or so years, I find my perspective continually evolving: 

  • I don’t want to always be working on trying to find that magic place where everything runs smoothly. I don’t want that to be my focus. I’d much rather simply focus on being engaged with my kids when it’s that time and engaged with my work when it’s that time and engaged with Chris when it’s that time and engaged with myself when it's me time. I’m acutely aware when my attitude is heading downhill. I’m working on taking a deep breath and refocusing on what’s most important.
  • A big challenge for me occurs on the days when childcare issues come up. My first inclination is to let the stress and pressure rise up as I think of my to-do list and my deadlines and any other agenda items that might be on my list for the day. My second inclination is to get mad and think, “how come it’s me that has to give up what was on my list for the day?” I round that all out with a firm GET OVER IT and a reminder to myself to embrace the wonderful opportunity to spend special time with Anna. Attitude, attitude, attitude.
  • It’s easy to get trapped in the cycle of always trying to find that elusive perfect balance when in reality what you have at any given time might be just right. These days I'm less focused on trying to find the perfect balance (not sure it even exists) and more focused on something I mentioned above: being engaged with my kids when it’s that time, engaged with my work when it’s that time, engaged with Chris when it’s that time, engaged with myself when it's me time.
  • Even with a list of things to-do a mile long, so many things on my list can wait. "What is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?"
  • Things are always changing.

READ | I like to read about ways to bring peace and calm into our lives. But what I’m really working on is reading less about it and doing more about simply living that way. Here’s some recent blog posts I’ve encountered that speak to some of these issues: 


I love being a working Mom. I love my family. I love my work. I love that I get to work from home. I especially love that my family is a big part of the things I create and the work I do.

My "wild and precious life" is evolving one day at a time. And I am oh so thankful for it every single day.

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  1. abbeyviolet says…
    01/27/2011

    I work from home (telecommute) and our schedule is much less settled. It would be nice to be more schedules and I completely feel your childcare woes. In my case, my job is half a continent away so there are weather issues here that aren't there and vice versa. It is complicated, but we just keep working on it as I wouldn't trade my 2/3 time work at home life. I get more time with my kids and more time for me even with all the unusual challenges. Thank you for sharing!

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  2. Christy says…
    01/27/2011

    Thank you for sharing what your life in a day is like. it was amazing how you are very organized person and know where to go with daily routines. My question how do you make meal planning and know what to eat dinner, or plan for grocery list. Is your kids picky eater or they will eat whatever you eats? I have enjoyed read your post today. Thanks again.

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  3. Shauna Miller says…
    01/27/2011

    As always you challenge me and inspire me. Thank you for a peek into your wild and precious life.

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  4. Amanda says…
    01/27/2011

    . . . thank you.

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  5. Helen says…
    01/27/2011

    Ali, amazing post, thanks so much. I'm a work-from-home Mum too, with two small children (4 and 1) and find myself tending towards the 'be fully present in whatever it is I'm doing at that moment' attitude more and more. It's working for me. I'm certainly less stressed. I love your 'be mindful' approach. I really hope lots more of us who are in the same situation will also find comfort in your post too. It came like a great big strengthening hug! Great stuff. Thanks.

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  6. Stacey says…
    01/27/2011

    Thank you so much for sharing the intimate details of your everyday life. I love how you are focusing on being 'engaged' in the appropriate activity for the time instead of being everything to everyone all the time. Balance is ever elusive, living in the moment is so rewarding. Thanks again for sharing your family with us.

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  7. Jenell says…
    01/27/2011

    Ali - this is really a great post - in so many ways. I love that you seem to have such a vision - a plan, but can stray away from that plan, too, and still enjoy life. I really enjoyed reading this and am forwarding this post to my daughter, who is just starting her family and is a working mom and a very busy person. Thank you for sharing your life with us.

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  8. Sarah says…
    01/27/2011

    Oh Ali,

    Thank you. Thanks for continuing to be an inspiration. I feel a kindred spirit moment coming on. I am also a mom, business owner, creator, and project manager of too many things. My word for last year was balance, and I feel like I acheived what I set out to, and this year my word is focus. Focus on all the good, let the distractions distract someone else. Be present. I also count my blessings and am thankful every single day. I drink in the moments and the converstations and the just being there. That's not to say it isn't lonely sometimes, but I'll never get these years back with my kids. Going from working full tim outside of the house to not was an easy decision, but takes continual pep talks to myself on my own self worth.

    Anyway, you answered several of my wonderings, reaffirmed my convictions and reminded me to forget the perfect system and schedule and just focus on the now.

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  9. Keshet Shenkar says…
    01/27/2011

    This post is so insightful and thought-provoking. Thank you for writing it!

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  10. madeline St onge says…
    01/27/2011

    Ali thank you for sharing your life with us. You are one busy and dedicated mama

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  11. Wahkuna says…
    01/27/2011

    I love this post so much, thank you for being so inspiring, and sharing a piece of your world with us! :-)

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  12. Carolyn says…
    01/27/2011

    I loved this post. Thanks so much for sharing your life with us. I love when you recommend books and of course, I love that you inspire with us with your grace and wisdom. Bless you Ali!

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  13. Jennifer Draut says…
    01/27/2011

    Thank you for the awesome post. I work from home too and it's just nice to see that you don't have a regimented schedule. Sometimes I think I'd get more done if I did, but you helped me see that's probably not the case.

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  14. Michelle says…
    01/27/2011

    Thank you for those beautiful quotes and thank you for giving us a view of your life.
    You said "I especially love that my family is a big part of the things I create and the work I do."
    I have always thought that must be the coolest part of your job!

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    1. Ali says…
      01/27/2011

      It really and truly is :).

  15. Valentina says…
    01/27/2011

    Ali, thanks for this post!
    I know every person life and situations are totally different but I totally appreciate your story.
    Sooner than later I'll be adding a baby to my life. I have been married for only a year, but I'm 38 and it's time ;). I'm constantly worried thinking how I'll manage my art business working at home. Again... thanks you so much for sharing your story!

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  16. Sue TR says…
    01/27/2011

    Thanks for the post Ali !

    I've been feeling some of the same things lately after being a SAHM for just about 3 years after being a working mom and before that a grad-student mom - yes, I am a glutton for punishment :-)

    I'm trying to figure out what my next step should be as far as career and have been frankly struggling but I am trying to make a great effort to be PRESENT especially when my girls (9 yo twins) are home and want to hang out...because in a blink of an eye, I know they're going to be off and away.

    Thanks again for sharing!
    Sue

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  17. Kristi says…
    01/27/2011

    I used to work from home when my children were little. I wouldn't have had it any other way and I never regretted that choice even though it was quite a lively situtation most days. Now that all three are grown and have moved out I work at a community college as fundraiser. I love my job! But I find that when I get home the silence of the house with just the two of us is sometimes sad and lonely. Enjoy every day with your two precious children. You will never be sorry you worked from home. Time goes so fast and there are so many memories in those hectic days.

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  18. Susan R says…
    01/27/2011

    this post totally speaks to me. my OLW is BE and this post represents so much of what that word means to me this year. It means prioritizing what's important and making time to get them done so you can be with the ones you love during the moments that count. I want more moments of being and less of doing. In line with your comment that busier does not equal fuller life. I totally get that. Thanks so much for the post Ali, so much detail and richness in your life that you've given us more than a glimpse into today. :)

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  19. Jen says…
    01/27/2011

    Thank you so much for sharing this. I have chosen clear as my word this year because I am trying to clear the excess out of my life, trying to make things simpler. Your list making, schedule following, and everything-has-its-place philosophy is actually something I am following more, which seems to be bringing me more peace and happiness. I am following these things loosely, just as you are, so that I can have some order (which makes me happy, helps to keep my head clearer) but its not so ridged that I stress about it. I value reading about your life as I settle into a new routine in my life. Like I said before, Thank you for sharing =)

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  20. lily says…
    01/27/2011

    thank you for this wonderful post! i am pondering how to work from home (attorney) while caring for my toddler twins. this post inspires me today, and gives me so much to look forward to tomorrow. sent to me from my sweet and wonderful mother who loves your writing! thank you mom and ali!

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    1. Ali says…
      01/28/2011

      Cool Lily - welcome and good luck to you!

  21. Paula in Australia says…
    01/28/2011

    Hi Ali yet again you amaze with your openness and honesty. Just a quick question, with the kids toys etc. Do you have a playroom or do the kids store toys in their rooms or are the in your general living area? Would be interested to see how this aspect ie kids toys are handled in your household as well. Thanks :-)

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    1. Ali says…
      01/28/2011

      We don't have a playroom. They both have some toys in their bedrooms and this house has a large closet in the living room that stores toys, books, art supplies they play with downstairs. I think I might do a post coming up with looks at some of those places in our house.

  22. Sara Mangan says…
    01/28/2011

    As I read this all I could think of was what a great documentation, for you, about life right now. I can see it finding a home in your Project Life binder. Things in life change so fast. All too soon this routine will be totally different.

    Thanks for sharing. Love your ideas and tips.

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    1. Ali says…
      01/28/2011

      Printing it out today :).

  23. Contemplative In Action » Blog Archive » How do you spend your time? says…
    01/28/2011

    [...] post by Ali Edwards had some good reminders of how we live our life. I liked her quote by Mary Oliver “tell me, [...]

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  24. Chris H says…
    01/28/2011

    Thank you for this post Ali. I can identify so well with many of the things you've learned along the way. So many times women take it all on and feel if we aren't running around like a mad woman then we aren't doing enough. Peaceful flow of daily life is ok. In fact I think it's better.

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    1. Chris H says…
      01/28/2011

      Thank you Ali. That was a gift. Amazing. I've spent the last hour reading posts and making notes, jotting down quotes. I'm delving into art journaling and mixed media lately, and today I was just praying for inspiration to find me.

    2. Ali says…
      01/28/2011

      Chris you might like this link that's all about embracing "enough" - http://www.traceyclark.com/iamenough/2010/3/9/i-am-enough-and-so-it-begins.html

  25. Rosa says…
    01/28/2011

    Hi Ali, I was wondering what mac computers you use... What size laptop do you find works for you? I'm looking to upgrade my laptop from my 13 inch MacBook pro...

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    1. Ali says…
      01/28/2011

      My desktop is a MacPro tower (purchased in 2009) and my laptop is a MacPro 15 inch. The 15 inch has been just right for me - I don't do any of my main design/photo work on the laptop so the 15 inch seems fine (if this was my main computer I'd want a bigger screen). I have a large (but not giant) monitor that goes along with my desktop computer.

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