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December 15, 2011

The Evolution Of My Story

It’s always been my goal to authentically share my story both in my scrapbooks and in this online space.

To me that means addressing the good, the bad, the beautiful, the successes, the challenges – the very real pieces of my life.

As many of you have noticed, and some have commented and emailed, Chris has been mostly absent for some time from the stories and photos. He has decided that he wants something different with his life and we are in the process of getting a divorce.

Chris continues to maintain an active role in the kid’s lives.

There is nothing easy about this.

It’s very hard and very stressful and very sad.

And yet, the story continues for all of us. For him and me. For the kids and me. For him and the kids. And there are many, many things I have to be thankful for in my life.

I’ve always maintained, and taught in my workshops, that not all stories need to be told.

But here, in this space, it’s important to me that there’s a general awareness of this change. This will allow me to more authentically share my story going forward.

A few months ago I asked for your prayers, your positive energy, your wishes of strength and peace, and your compassion. I’d humbly ask for your continued kindness as this specific chapter closes and new ones begin.

As you consider leaving a comment I would also humbly ask that you focus on something positive, compassionate and/or uplifting. Our heartfelt intent is to maintain a positive relationship as we move forward in our lives.

Wishing all of you, especially any of you who may be experiencing something similar within your own family, peace during the Christmas season.

Comments

  • 1.
    dnobles said…

    It is absolutely possible to continue forward as parents of two great kids and build a positive relationship in that context. It will be different….and it can still be good. It will be what you make it and after following you for years, I know you will make it good.

    • ….
      Kelly Goree said…

      I completely agree with this. As a child of divorce, I told my parents every chance I could as I got older that while it was (obviously) a life altering experience for me, that two people could not have handled it better for their child and I was so grateful for that and for them. I pray that your children say the same thing to you one day and that you have continued strength and peace as you face this challenge, Ali. You are an amazing woman and your children are lucky to have you :)

  • 2.
    caro said…

    AlWAYS remember:
    1. You are Beautiful.
    2. You are beloved.
    and one from my own heart,
    3. You do have the courage this will take.

  • 3.
    melissa deakin said…

    you are a remarkable woman. your positive spirit and enthusiasm for life is infectious. almost on a daily basis I encounter someone in some fashion and in my head i say, ‘everyone has a story’ and i know that this comes from you and your voice and what you have shared with all of us. i wish you strength, peace, and wisdom as you begin this next chapter in your life. know that you have touched mine very profoundly and for that i am so grateful!

  • 4.
    KarynS said…

    Ali my heartfelt thoughts & prayers are with you all this Christmas.

  • 5.
    Maureen said…

    You have my prayers, my tears but most of all my heartfelt love, as you walk into your new future. When you share your sorrow, it is halved, and quartered, and eighthed and…shared with each compassionate heart that accepts your journey as part of her own.

    • ….
      Cathy said…

      Oooh. I LOVE this sentiment. Very well said Maureen!

    • ….
      Kate madaus said…

      So true! Thankful for that encouraging reminder-

    • ….
      Emily Kinsaul said…

      Beautifully said!

    • ….
      Jennifer said…

      Maureen – thank you so much for saying exactly what I was thinking. You put it much better than I could have.
      Ali more prayers and best wishes!

    • ….
      Dawn Cheshire said…

      Couldn’t have said it better myself. You inspire so many of us everyday Ali, My best wishes to you and your beautiful family and wishing you a happy & healthy 2012!

  • 6.
    julie said…

    oh, ali! i am sorry that you are going through all of this. i hope that joy can surround you in this next chapter of your life. your blog and stories bring so much joy to me. i look forward to checking your blog everyday!! for that… thank you. big hugs to you!! julie

  • 7.
    Mary in IL said…

    My heart aches for you Ali because I feel like you are “family,” having followed you for 9 years now. My prayers for all of you, God will bring you (and your whole family) through this. May His peace surround you this Christmas season.

  • 8.
    jesa said…

    Ali, I had wondered this very question but did not want to invade your privacy. I am so sorry to hear of this news. Relationship are never easy no matter what kind we have whether it be with our significant other, family or friend. As always thank you for sharing something so intimate and personal. My prayers and heart go to you an the children in this very difficult time. You are wonderful person, great teacher, caring mother and beautiful story teller.

  • 9.
    Tracy said…

    I wish you and your family peace this Christmas and always. You are an awesome mom, may God continue to give you strength. Choose happiness & kindness Ali, you and your kids deserve them both. Merry Christmas….blessings & peace in the new year.

  • 10.
    toni from said…

    Ali,

    Thank you for being so honest and forthcoming. You are one of the most genuine people our there in blog land, and I love that about you. Families come in many shapes and sizes and even with a divorce children can grow into very positive, respectful individuals. We have a blended family and my children (one with husband, one froma previous relationship) are great kids. My oldest has grown up going back and forth from my house to his bio dad’s and he is a well-rounded, great kid. He also has Asperger’s and is about the same age as Simon. His younger sister (my husband and my child together) also is a happy, content kid.

  • 11.

    Oh Ali, I love you and will keep you,Simon and Anna in my prayers…I emailed you as well.
    Take good care and know that you are NEVER alone.

    • ….
      Kristi O said…

      Thank you for being brave and for sharing. I pray for peace, hope and a bright future. You inspire me even in your suffering.

  • 12.
    Kris said…

    Ali.
    I wish you and your family peace this Christmas season. Thank you for sharing this transition in your life.

  • 13.
    Lourdes A. said…

    Wishing you a peaceful and relaxing season. Focus on those lovely kids you have, on all you have accomplished, on how you touch everyone’s lives with your creativity. Thank you for doing so much for everyone else. Now, take a break, and take care of yourself too. Sometimes letting others take care of you works, too. Let all our prayers and positive energy be with you.

  • 14.
    jennie said…

    Ali, sending you lots of prayers and love. I read everyday and am so saddened to hear things didn’t work out…you share so much of your story I feel like I know you and the kids. Here’s to finding peace in this season.

  • 15.
    Michelle L said…

    Ali, As a lot of others have posted I have wondered about this but didn’t feel it was my place to ask or even know something so personal about you. As always you amaze me with your openness. There is something very remarkable about you. I’m not great with words but just know that this and all of your posts mean so much to me and so many others. Many blessing for you and your family. I will continue to pray that everything works out smoothly for all of you.

  • 16.
    sharon dryjanski said…

    My dear Ali,
    You and the family are always in my prayers as I shared with you at Creative Escape in AZ ….Ali you are loved and beautiful and strong….always remember if God is for us who can be against….I feel like part of your family since I have followed you ever since you had the blog. It was sure honor for me to have a class with you and also to speak with you…Ali you are strong and a new door is waiting to be opened when His time is right……I love you and the family.

    Christmas peace and blessings ….Hugs

    Sharon Dryjanski Phoenix AZ

  • 17.
    Vickie said…

    All my best to you and yours.

  • 18.
    marcy said…

    You are a fantastic mother and your kids adore you…

  • 19.
    Wendy Goodman said…

    Thank you for sharing your story. My brother is going through a similar situation. My heart breaks for him, but I keep telling him that he will get through this and will be better because of it. His story is part of my family, but I can see the positive way it will influence all of us going forward. Sometimes you have to break to become whole again. Best wishes to you.

  • 20.
    Melanie Kiser said…

    I am so sorry. I had wondered, but assumed/hoped he was just sooo busy. I know you will all be fine – you have a wonderful extended family. I will send many calm and peaceful wishes to you on Christmas Day. Many hugs to you, Simon and Anna.

  • 21.
    Nora said…

    Oh Ali I’m so very sorry to hear about this. Thank you so much for sharing your heart and your life with us. I’m praying for you and the kids always. Remember always that God loves you and is there for you. My word is HOPE for 2012 and that is because there is always always hope in the Lord!!!!

  • 22.
    Jessica said…

    I am so very, very sorry. It’s not easy. Thinking of you and your family….you all will be in my prayers during this time.

  • 23.
    AshleyM said…

    Surround yourself with the people you love and take it all one day at a time. Big hugs!

  • 24.
    Joanne said…

    Ali – I know this wouldnt have been an easy post to write but Im glad you did – it wasnt nice seeing people post in other places with their opinions on what was happening when its none of their business. Ill be thinking of you, Simon and Anna and sending you my best wishes.

  • 25.
    Steph said…

    Ali – you are so very brave and I am in awe of the grace you’ve shown as you walk this new path. You are loved and admired and are a fantastic example for Simon and Anna. I hope you feel the love and support that is coming your way. xoxo

  • 26.
    Isabel said…

    Ali,
    Although I’m on the other side of the Atlantic ocean… in Portugal, I visit your blog everyday and love it! You are a well structured woman and that will help you during this change in your life. My daughter was 6 when we have to face this challenge too, it was not easy but with love and care… the sky is the limit. Three years ago I found love again and now I have a wonderful husband and a beautiful 18 years old grown woman! I wish you all the best and I will continue to follow your work and your successful life story! “CHANGE” may be a good OLW for 2012…. Have a peaceful and loving Christmas!
    Isabel

  • 27.
    MElissa salomon said…

    Praying for all of you

  • 28.
    Molly said…

    Ali, you were so brave to share this. You have touched so many lives and inspired so many people to share their stories. I wish you and your family comfort and peace.
    -M

  • 29.
    Megan said…

    Ali, you write with such poise and dignity. And even as I read your heartbreaking words I felt you projected a sense of peace. I hope that you and your family can feel that even at this time in your journey.

  • 30.
    Meghan R said…

    Sending positive thoughts your way Ali. I am recently divorced and I know how hard it can be. Even though your relationship with Chris is over, its wonderful that he is still a part of your children’s lives and wants to continue that relationship.

  • 31.
    Cindi said…

    I am so sorry..I have never commented on here before, but please know that I am lifting you up in prayer..

  • 32.
    GabyC said…

    Ali, I have been wondering about your situation and sending you thoughts of peace and tranquility. You had not said so explicitly, but I surmised that something of the sort was happening. Thank you for your openness and authenticity. In these hard times your many gifts and blessings will carry you through. You do an amazing job of focusing on the positive, of celebrating the everyday happy things. Know that as a teacher and a leader in this community you are loved greatly because of how freely you share of yourself. You have an amazing spirit of generosity, and all that you give will return to you manifold.

  • 33.
    Karina K said…

    Ali,

    I have been following you for more than six years, have taken classes from you in California and two in Eugene and its because of you that I keep recording the stories of my life. My boyfriends laughs at me that I talk about you like you were my close friend. His big joke is what would Ali do! You are such a great person, mom and role model! You are the kind of mom that I will use as a model when I have kids!

    Thanks for the Lemon Drop recipe I can’t wait to try it out!

  • 34.
    Kristen said…

    I’ve been reading your blog for years and though I don’t know you personally, it feels as though I do. Thank you for sharing this with all of us–though I am sorry it is such sad news. I wish you and your family a wonderful holiday and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. You are showing tremendous grace. Wishing you continued strength and sending you a hug…

  • 35.
    DanaN said…

    Thank you for sharing this part of your story. I know this is a difficult time because my husband and I have also decided to get a divorce, and for the same reason you stated. The good news is that it gets easier each day. The sun will still come up, the kids will still love you, and you have a chance to begin a new chapter in your life. I wish you and your family the best.

  • 36.
    Janelle said…

    I don’t usually comment on blogs, but I want to wish you luck and love during this challenging time.

  • 37.
    Tiffany said…

    I can tell you that it is absolutely possible to maintain a positive relationship with the father of your children. It isn’t easy, but if both want it and maintain positive thoughts in your mind and actions both with each other and in front of your children – it will work! I have been working very hard at this over the last 8 years and I can feel very proud and confident to say that my DD11 has never heard either her father or I say anything negative about the other. This puts a smile on my face to know that I am providing the best, positive environment for her personal growth and I am SURE you will also soon feel that wonderful feeling.

  • 38.
    Anilu Magloire said…

    I’m right there with you… All of this can be so hard and so magnified during the holidays.
    I am wishing for you lots of peace, strength and most of all a quick and painless resolution.
    Here’s to new chapters in life being better.
    Hugs to you.

  • 39.
    Chrissie said…

    I am grateful for your courage and grace in sharing this. My husband moved out a few months ago and it has been such a burden to my heart to think, “how will I scrapbook this time in our lives?” Thank you for reminding me that there is joy even in times of sorrow. You and your family are in my prayers!

  • 40.
    dawn said…

    keeping you all in my prayers. so impressed with how you handle things – even this – with grace and dignity. much love to you as you move into this new season of life.

  • 41.

    Ali- I’m so sorry. You are such a grace filled,classy woman. I’m proud of you. Wishing you grace and an open heart in the next stage of yout life.

  • 42.
    elise said…

    that quote is wonderful.
    I admire you so much for choosing to share.
    I wish you so much peace and strength.

  • 43.
    Laura said…

    If I know anyone who can handle a situation like this with grace and dignity, it’s you Ali. Thinking of you. xox

  • 44.
    Joanna said…

    I’ve long admired you as an artist/story teller/scrapbooker. But today I admire you for your grace and beauty during a difficult time. Your transparency and authenticity is the reason I’ve followed you for so many years. I find your story so inspirational.

    As a child of divorced parents, I can assure you that I’ve never lacked for love or family. Families do come in all shapes and sizes. Anna and Simon are lucky to have you. There is pain. Their is sadness, but there is love, and hope as well.

    Sending prayers to all 4 of you as you go make your way through this new story.

    • ….
      Susanne Huettner said…

      This is exactly the reason why I am here whenever I can find a few minutes.

      Dear Ali, sending you and your loved ones christmas peace and whishing you all the strength you need for the next weeks.

  • 45.
    Barbara said…

    You are so courageous… My heart is heavy for you. Hugs.

  • 46.
    Saire said…

    Inspire, that is what you do for all who’s lives you touch! Keeping it real is a gift of bravery and truth which helps all of us face the realness in our lives and it helps us to keep moving forward, to keep creating through peaceful times and through difficult times.

  • 47.
    rhonda robson said…

    thank you for sharing your story with us. we always see the great that is out there. we rarely see the struggles, the pain. i pray that this is a smooth process for you. divorce is not a great road but it is a road that will make you stronger. god bless.

  • 48.
    kate said…

    I experienced this a few years ago myself. I wish the best for your family as you deal with this.

  • 49.
    Tami said…

    It’s ok to be sad, it not what you might have wishes for but you move through this phase of your life with the help of your supportive friends and family and they will help you all through these difficult days, weeks and months ahead. I can imagine your one little word for 2012 might reflect this change?

  • 50.
    Kathryn Benfiet said…

    You’ve been in my thoughts and prayers for several weeks now and I sensed that changes were happening. I think one of the reasons you are so popular (for lack of a better word) is that you are real…and life is sad and messy and wonderful. Thank you for being vulnerable and being willing to share this with us. I have found that out of the most difficult challenges come wonderful blessings and joy, so I’m praying that for you and your family. Sending you hugs and good wishes this holiday season. Kathryn

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